but for the Grace of God

January 31, 2008

I didn’t know . . .

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Here’s I post I read this evening from a blog titled Radical Womanhood. It broke my heart. I’m left thinking what do I do? Can I make a difference? Do I just read this, cry in my heart and forget the next day?

Standing Against Sexual Slavery

Just as I was getting ready to post the next in the series about a godly woman’s outreach to the poor and needy, I heard the ding of my inbox. When I checked it, I saw that Boundless was running an article on exactly the same topic I was writing about. So today’s post is extra-long, but very important to read.Of the many issues that draw the attention of Christians, human trafficking should rank at the top of the list because these are creatures made in the image of God. It’s my view, however, that sex trafficking should be a particular concern to Christian women; in fact, in terms of outreach to the poor and needy, it could be the issue of our generation. In light of the overwhelming proliferation of pornography, we have to stand up to voracious commercial interests and oppose this evil in the name of Jesus Christ. In my book research I’ve learned there was an extremely short window of time in the early ’80s when ChristiSlaveryans and feminists were aligned against pornography. But that changed in the 1990s with the rise of both the Internet and the raunch culture among the next generation of feminists. Now we have a commercial sex trade that is preying on younger and younger children in desperately poor nations (as well as in this nation).
In the Boundless article, Sexual Slavery: Shattering the Sacred, Lindy Morgan writes this horrifying account:

I wonder then, what will become of the man who came to that market-side cafe, in the smothering heat of South East Asia and purchased the innocence of a child along with his pancakes. The memory still minces my heart, even though a year’s time now stands between me and that moment. I saw the Cambodian girl tucked against the wall, her shoulders curled over herself, her small frame swallowed in the shadow of the foreigner sitting beside her. I watched while the bearded giant negotiated with a Cambodian man across the table over the terms of her “service.”

As I sat three tables away, an involuntary witness to his crime, questions formed a full-speed collision in my head. How old was she? Could I talk to her? Could I stop this “transaction?” How could this Cambodian man bring her here and betray her into the hands of such a person? I only had time to snap a picture with shaky hands before they were gone, the Cambodian man one way, the American and his new entertainment, clutching only one small bag of possessions, gone the other. “Be careful friend,” I shouted after her, my attempt at Khmer causing her to throw a look my way. A look that said, “I know this is wrong, but I have no choice….”

There would be no breakfast eaten that day. I felt as cold and rubbery as the pile of eggs staring back from my plate. Later I would talk with the cafe’s Cambodian owner and explain who could be contacted in such an event. She told me with lost resignation that this happens all the time.

Lord, have mercy, Lord have mercy. This cry became a daily SOS to heaven during the 12 months my heart was parceled out into the lives of young Cambodian girls. I lived and worked for a year in their country of temples, palm trees and red fluorescent lights that screamed the message each night, “Lives destroyed here.”

Cambodia’s capital, Phnom Penh, is home to over 300 brothels. The girls inside, as young as age 4, are from Vietnam, Thailand and Cambodia. They have been tricked, purchased, often drugged, transported across national borders and are now held emotionally and physically captive to the demands of those who would profit monetarily from their destruction. People from in town and from every “civilized” country know this forgotten land to be one of cheap and abundant perversion with “no consequences.” Though deepest in Cambodia and the surrounding nations, this disease is worldwide, with over one million children currently in the snare of sex trafficking and exploitation. “If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness” (Matt. 6:23).

Dscn0307 This past October, a friend of mine went to Phnom Penh to learn what various Christian organizations are doing to combat sex trafficking. Kate McNeill led a group of 10 women from Frontline, the singles ministry of McLean Bible Church in Virginia, to spend a week helping these Cambodian-based ministries in the areas of prevention, intervention and after-care services for rescued sex workers. This is what she wrote after her trip:

Eighty percent of the girls born into these populations are trafficked. They are poor and easily coerced, taken, or sold into slavery. On one of our outreaches, we walked through this slum to gather the children for the afternoon lesson. I had never seen poverty like this. There was trash everywhere and people just sitting with it. I looked in several doorways to see one small room, one bed and at least five people. I was overtaken by the poverty and the dirtiness of the environment. I kept praying, “Lord, please help me to not view this as an experience but to truly understand that this is how people live. People you love dearly and who I am called to love, too.” Shortly after praying this a little girl came running up beside me and grabbed my hand. We held hands the rest of the way through the slum and smiled at one another. One small girl broke that barrier for me to love. To view these people and this environment with the heart and love of God impacted me greatly.

One day we visited a former brothel. It was so horrifying. It looked like a kennel. It wasDscn0443 all concrete, the rooms were small, drab, and dark. To me, it wasn’t fit for an animal. We walked through this brothel and prayed for the girls that used to be enslaved there. We also prayed for the building because it is being renovated into a Christian community center. A former U.S. pastor working in Cambodia to restore young girls that have been trafficked has rented this building and is renovating it. He and his wife are turning it into a community center where children in this neighborhood can come to learn English and the Bible. To see the darkness of this former brothel/prison that these young girls were kept in and then to see the light of the aftercare centers where they now reside today is more evidence of God’s faithfulness. What Satan meant for evil, God will use for good! While we were there tons of neighborhood kids came running down to visit with us. They practiced their ABC’s and we sang a song together. It was such a gift to see so much light and life in a formerly dark place.

We also visited two after-care centers where the girls are taken after being rescued from the brothels. We played games, painted pictures, painted nails, and played outside. The thing that struck me the most is that these are just girls. Prior to going to Cambodia, my mind wanted to reason in some way that they would be different than girls here and that somehow that would make it easier to understand their situation. But when given paint and paper, they drew flowers and butterflies; when given a ball, they played soccer and monkey in the middle; when given a swing set, they swung; a seesaw, they seesawed. They laughed and had so much fun! To me, this was evidence that our God is who He says He is–that He is able “to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.” Many have placed their faith in Him since coming to these centers. It was such a gift to spend the day with them.

Please continue to pray for the girls enslaved to the sex trade in Cambodia and worldwide. It is real. And these girls are just that, girls. To see them through the doorways of the brothels, and to interact with them in the aftercare centers, has given me faces and names instead of just numbers and statistics. These girls have been violated in one of the worst ways possible over and over again, and they desperately need our prayers for rescue and restoration.

There are many organizations involved in combating sex trafficking, from the International Justice Mission to YWAM to Shared Hope International, and many more. Personally, I support Shared Hope International, but I encourage you to pray and follow God’s leading as to what you can do. The point is that a problem this large needs both logistical and financial support, as well as the prayers of those who know the real battle is “against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness” (Ephesians 6:12).

(Photos: Kate, in orange, with her team; a brothel.)

January 30, 2008

Memory Verse Challenge Week 7

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Wow . . . it has been two weeks since I posted a memory challenge.  Too be honest, I’m still working on week 6’s challenge.  When I memorize a passage, I often memorize it verse by verse, while at the same time memorizing other passages or single verses.  This last week I’ve been working on Romans 6, plus a few other verses that I’ve come across during my prayer time or reading time. Anyway, I’ve got one verse left to go on week 6, so I chose a simple one for tonight.

Daniel 11:32b    But the people who know their God will display strength and take action.

January 29, 2008

my kids with the kids

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Our good friends the Klassens raise fainting goats, and one of our favorite things to do is visit their goats, especially when they have young kids for the boys to hold. We went yesterday while the weather was mild, although VERY windy. The Klassen’s herd has 12 new kids born less than a week ago! Jesse was adorable and showed no fear picking up the kids. I was a little concerned when the mama starting show some signs of butting Max the dog with Jesse in between the two of them . . .

       

January 28, 2008

14G

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January 25, 2008

Meerah’s Blog

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Please welcome Meerah into the blogging community. Meerah is character developed by a dear, dear friend who wishes to remain anonymous at this time. However, I have enjoyed Meerah’s humor over and over again this year. In fact, Meerah gave me a Christmas present entitled: 30 Days with Meerah, Reflections from Her Heart.

Here’s a few of my favorite days–

Open flames and long, loose, flowing sleeves do not mix.
Unless you enjoy wearing burnt ends.

Another–

No, no, no,no, no, no.

You misunderstand me.

It wasn’t that I did not hear you.

I was not listening.

And finally-

When I see you in that outfit,

I am filled with generosity.

Please take my scarf . .

and my coat . . .

this veil would go nicely also.

I have heard Meerah speak many, many times. So, when I read these I can hear her voice, accent, or inflections in my head. I kinda imagine her as from Pakistan, but Meerah herself is not really sure what country she claims as her homeland. Anyway, I hope you can enjoy Meerah’s wit and banter as much as I do. Meerah-thanks for adding so much humor into my crazy, boy-filled days.

booger talk

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This morning I’m cuddling with Jesse in my bed. Here’s the conversation.

jesse:  Mommie, I got the booger in my nose.

me: What did you do with it?

jesse:  I eat it.

me: No! Don’t eat boogers. That’s icky.

jesse: Sorry.  Can I wick (lick) it?

January 24, 2008

Three little monkeys jumping off the bed . . .

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It goes like this. I was fixing dinner. The boys were playing in Jonah and Jesse’s room. They were building Legos and playing action figures.

Thump. Rattling of the china cubbard.

I yell up the stairs, “No jumping off the bed. No jumping on the bed. Make that no jumping at all.”

“Yes, ma’m,” replies each of the boys.

Thump. Rattling of the china cubbard.

I walk up the stairs, open the door, and say, “NO jumping off the bed. If you jump off the bed again, I will discipline you.”

“Yes, ma’m,” replies each of the boys.

“Maybe you should read some books . . . “

“Yes, ma’m,” replies each of the boys.

Meanwhile, JD gets home from work, and I fill him in on the situation.

Thump. Rattling of the china cubbard.

JD heads up stairs. Long, long silence. Slowly, each boy comes downstairs, one at a time, crying and saying, “I’m sorry for disobeying you, mommy. Will you please forgive me?”

Later JD tells me that when he opened the door, Jacob was STANDING ON THE DRESSER! I’m stunned. That’s really not like Jacob. How could my children be doing something like that? I mean, we have pretty tight rules about how you treat the furniture and what is appropriate for inside play. Jumping is for outside and the basement . . .

Good news: it is supposed to be 60 degrees on Saturday.

Disclaimer: I write this knowing that someone is going to think that my children are out of control. In fact, a little while ago, I might have thought that if I’d read this about someone else’s kids. Trust me on this, my energetic, vivacious boys have humbled me. I often feel like I’ve always got my thumb on top of them saying “no” to every request, even every movement.

January 23, 2008

affording a college education

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For the third time . . . .

I’ve been thinking a lot about how Hubby and I are going to afford our boys’ education.  Yesterday I found this calculator.  For Jacob to attend a 4-year, in-state, public college will be nearly $110k.  To prepare for that we need to save $450 a month for the next 10 years.  Take that times 3 to include the other boys. How will we ever afford that???

Hubby and I made it through college debt-free thanks to some full-ride scholarships and his REALLY hard work at his lawncare business.  But unless are boys are fortunate  to land that kind of scholarship, even hard work won’t be enough to raise that kind of money.

We have 40 beautiful acres here, already divided into several pastures and smaller pens, plus multiple  lean-tos (I think that is what they are called–they are open on one side), two big barns, and a chicken coop.  SO, we’ve been dreaming about how to use this place to help the boys make money to pay for college.  Here’s what’s on the list so far: cows, alpacas, eggs, farmer’s market (veggies), and fresh-cut flowers.  We are hoping to grow slowly into this, so that as they boys grow so will our little farmstead.

What do ya think?  What are you doing to prepare for your kiddos college years?  If you had all the money, would you pay for your child’s complete education?   I’m not sure that I would.  I mean those care-free college days sound nice, just letting the kid concentrate on studying.  But, I think my boys will value it more if they have to work for it, invest in it, own it.

I’m so irritated

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because I have typed a post twice and it keeps getting lost into WordPress!!!!!

Anybody else having this problem?

January 22, 2008

surrender or commit? servant or slave?

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I’m about to give you a  long passage from a book I’m reading.  It is long for a post, I know, I’ve got to type it! But it is paradigm shifting stuff.  Take the time, read it, and let me know what you think.

From Nancy Leigh DeMoss’s book Surrender:

Romanian pastor and Christian leader Josef Tson was exiled from his native country in 1981, after experiencing prolonged persecution at the hands of one of the most repressive Communist regimes in history.  He immigrated to the United States, where he ministered for nearly a decade, until he was able to return to his homeland, where he continues serving today.  Though his academic and professional credentials are impressive, Josef did not offer a printed bio sketch. Rather, this articulate, Oxford-educated theologian, who had suffered so greatly for his faith, said simply, “I wish to be introduced as a ’slave of Jesus Christ.”

During his years in exile, Josef was taken aback by some of the traits of evangelical Christianity in the United States that were foreign to what he had experienced in Eastern Europe.  As he studied the historical development of American evangelicalism, he discovered that those contemporary characteristics were the fruit of a series of spiritual paradigm shifts.

The first of these changes took place at the beginning of the twentieth century, when the nineteenth-century emphasis on holiness shifted to a desire for uplifting, ecstatic experiences.

A second change took place in the 1950s and 1960s, which Josef identifies as a “shift from the call to full surrender to the call to commitment.”  He explains the difference this way:

    Christian surrender means that a person lifts his or her hands and says to God, “Here I am, I surrender, You take over, I belong to You; You dispose of me.”

But this is America, the county of independent people! This is the place of “Nobody should command me! . . . I belong only to myself!”

A call to surrender, even more, to full surrender, simply doesn’t go well with such people. Therefore, the preachers, who wanted “results,” and wanted them in big numbers, felt (and gave in to) the temptation to soften the demand, to reduce the cost, to make the message more “palatable.” And they the word “commitment.”

You see, commitment means “I engage myself to do something for you,” or ever lighter, “I promise to do something for you,” but I remain myself and may keep my promise of not. We can speak of weaker or stronger commitment, but be it as strong as possible, it still is my independent self that engages itself in a tentative promise.

This subtle change pave the way for other shifts in the Christian culture. Josef Tson goes on to say:

One of them came quietly, almost unobserved, through the new versions of the Bible. Translators did not like the term “bondslave” to be applied to people.  Who wants to be somebody’s slave? Therefore, they replaced it with “servant.” Again, a reflection and demand of the independent spirit!

In the Greek, “slave” is doulos,  “servant” is diakonos. In the Greek Bible on never, never diakoneo to God–one never serves God; one only douleo to God–that is, one slaves to God.

Jesus makes it clear in Luke 17 that however much you do for God, at the end of the day you say: “I am an unworthy slave; I only did what is the duty of the slave to do!” But all that is gone now, by the replacement of the word “slave” with the word “servant.”

As Josef Tson point out, slavery is a concept we resist in the West. We can barely swallow the idea of a servant, but the word slave sticks in our through–as it should, if we were speaking of coerced or involuntary slavery of a person who is owned against his will by another. That is an abhorrent relationship between two individuals, both of whom are created in the image of God. but it is absolutely appropriate that human beings should choose to be the slaves of the Lord Jesus, whom they love and long to serve for all their lives.

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Ouch.

Am I  surrendering or committing? I think of all those years I sang “I surrender all” at summer camps, or during invitations.  Too me, the word surrender brings to mind defeat. If I surrender,  I’m admitting I can’t do it alone . . .

Am I a slave or servant?  Am I choosing to be absolutely subject to the will of God or am I merely performing services for Him?

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